#TGIF friends. Yeah! The working week is winding down –weekend mode on amber, but let me put that aside and go straight to the 3rd edition of this series. Relax and enjoy your time here.
In the 2nd edition I mentioned we’ll see why every man has to learn the Hard Way very often. Let’s take a look, shall we?
LEARNING THE ‘HARD WAY’
Christopher McDougall said, “Every morning in Africa, a gazelle wakes up, it knows it must outrun the fastest lion or it will be killed. Every morning in Africa, a lion wakes up. It knows it must run faster than the slowest gazelle, or it will starve. It doesn’t matter whether you’re the lion or a gazelle-when the sun comes up, you’d better be running.” From this quote, the lion LEARNS to run fast to catch its prey. When the lion goes hungry for a day, nobody will teach it to move early to get food. The deer also learns to run far from its predator. The Hard Way of learning always stares us in the face at one point or the other. Lest we fall prey, we must do things rightly and on time. However, if one stays idle, he/she will be taught to work, the Hard Way. An example of learning the Hard Way, is a true life experience of a young man.
A young man was an incessant issue for his family, especially his parents. His parents expected more from him than he offered. Maybe because he was the first son – the one who will carry the family name. The boy never thought he had a problem, so he couldn’t see what his parents were worried about and therefore, he didn’t change. He had great ambitions – wanted to write his first book at 16, be the youngest animator in the world to visit the moon also at 16 and many other ambitions. However, he wasn’t disciplined enough to handle those ambitions. This young man at 18 eventually decided to go into himself. He planned what he called a ‘3-Month Attention Plan’ for the last three months of 2013: Oct. 26th – Dec. 26th. It involved him developing himself spiritually, mentally, physically etc. During this time, he learned and achieved things he never had. For example, he gained rapid influence online, composed inspiring and amusing poems, became a better writer, helped people etc.
When his ‘Attention Plan’ was concluded, he let the cat out of the bag to his parents. They were extremely pleased with his achievements and improvement. His siblings even saw the dynamic change. Since then, he has further improved on himself. He was forced to learn and change based on an unfavorable circumstance, which was him being a continual issue. Meaning he learned the ‘Hard way’. Today, I’m bold to say, “I was, but no longer am that boy”. Looking back, I am extremely happy my parents’ corrections pushed me took the step I did, rather than soak myself all the more in my problem. Three months had come my way over the years, but I didn’t do anything to improve myself until I was pushed to the corner. Taking this step made me see my worth, as well as my calling to be leader in my generation. Learning takes HUMILITY – you must admit you don’t know a thing, and then you seek to know it (as my dad says). If you think otherwise, you will end up disgracing yourself, defending what you don’t know. That way, you’ve learned the Hard Way.
In some action movies, there are times any of these statements are said or implied: “It’s either we do this the easy way or the HARD WAY!” or “Are we going to do this the easy way or the HARD WAY?” These statements and more (in similar context) are used by both heroes and villains when threatening each other, or a villain threatening a civilian. For example, if a villain is terrorizing a civilian, saying, “It’s either we do this the easy way or the HARD WAY!” The civilian may reply saying, “Oh please, not the hard way. Please, the easy way.” Obviously, no person in his/her right mind, under such atmosphere, will take the hard way, which is normal – human nature generally loves the easy life, even when he/she can’t afford it. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting good life, but deluding yourself that storms won’t come, is what’s absolutely wrong.
The ‘hard way’ of learning isn’t the best method of learning, giving the condition(s) one might have to learn in, but in the end, it yields a far better result than the ‘easy way’ of learning. More often than not, humans are programmed to act better when at a bad spot. There’s a children’s tale I was told in Primary School, that shows we humans act better and get better result(s), when often when at a bad spot.
Next week, I’ll share the story, even as we continue the Hard Way of learning under this series. Thanks for reading. Your comments are most welcome. Do have a blissful weekend.